So you may have noticed that we have been a bit MIA over the past few weeks. Between our marathon vacation, getting a new puppy, and settling back into the hustle and bustle, things have been pretty hectic. If you have been missing our content, we apologize! We feel so badly and don’t want to be the fickle bloggers who can’t stick to a content calendar.
However, we have one more piece of news to share: Bobby won’t be as present here on Seventy8 West. 🙁 It makes me sad, but the great news is that he received an awesome promotion at work that he’s been working towards for months. So although he won’t have as much free time to style photos and write blog posts, he’ll still make appearances on the blog here and there. I am so proud of him and beyond elated that he loves his job so much, so there are no complaints on my end. Hopefully you all will understand too.
Life is finally settling down and I’m getting the hang of raising my little fur ball, so I’m going to get back in the swing of things here on the blog as well. Stay tuned for lots of new content! I’ve got some pretty awesome things up my sleeve. 😉
[Note: This would be a typical Relationship Wednesday post, but since we’ve been catching up on travel posts — here’s a nice relationship Thursday blog for y’all. Happy Friday eve!]
Hobbies! Everyone’s got them and they can add so much to everyday life.
I personally am always trying to find new hobbies and get out of my comfort zone so that I can grow as a person and see what is out there!
Recently Lexi and I have been trying to add new hobbies into the mix of things so we can spend more time together and bond over fun things that we both enjoy.
I have been golfing for the past 10 or so years. Over the winter I got Lexi to go to the golf range once or twice but this summer she’s been trying to play a lot more! I put a golf club set together for her and we are planning to hit the course ASAP! I’m looking forward to adding a fun new hobby to our activities 🙂
We also started going on hikes every Saturday morning and it has allowed us to explore some really cool new areas around town. And that hiking tradition has led us to garner a new hobby in geocaching. This is one of the coolest things that I have ever done. Basically, you go to a park or even down the street or anywhere in between and there are these GPS markers that lead you to a box full of interesting items. Many people have visited there before and either taken something or left something behind, and there is usually a notebook for people to leave behind a note. You can become part of a really special community.
So get out there and find a new hobby with that special someone or even a friend! There is so much to do and explore out in the world and experience. You will even make some new friends from trying out new hobbies. Lexi and I have met some wonderful people while hiking and we look forward to meeting and sharing things with people 🙂
I briefly hinted at this when sharing our picks for good luggage options recently, but in a few days Bob and I are headed on another trip! (P.S. I ended up purchasing this super affordable carry on.) Traveling is one of our favorite things to do together, because it’s so exciting to see cool sights, try amazing food, and just get out there and explore.
Take that person and travel around the world. Buy a plane ticket for the two of you to travel all around the world, and go to places that are hard to go to and hard to get out of. And if when you come back to JFK, when you land in JFK, and you’re still in love with that person, get married at the airport.
I think there is some sage advice to be found within that quote. Cheesiness alert: The first full-fledged trip (you know, involving air travel and all that jazz) I took with Bobby confirmed that I wanted to marry him. We had already made it clear that we loved each other months prior to us ever even planning that trip, but once we embarked on our first adventure together, I knew he’d become my favorite traveling companion. That special trip is fondly ingrained in my mind, and now I look forward to traveling to our special island retreat every year.
Traveling allows you to bond with someone like nothing else. When you’re stuck in a car or a plane with someone, you must be comfortable with them completely. Their chatter, their laughs, their snoring, their silence, and even the more unpleasant things like their smelly feet or smelly gas. Why do you think shows like The Bachelor are geared around traveling, and competitors quickly get sick of each other? Why is The Amazing Race an incredibly challenging competition that frequently makes or breaks friendships or relationships? It’s because traveling with the same person day-in and day-out, eating with them, sharing the same bed while they hog the covers, and letting them pick at your fries when they should have just ordered their own gets annoying after a while.
Or it doesn’t. And if it doesn’t, consider yourself incredibly lucky. I consider myself so lucky that despite my anxiety, timidness, and general aversion to things that are daring, Bobby has ignited a love of travel and adventure within me. I wish for everyone to have that same kind of settledness even when in faraway lands. I wish for you the type of love that is spontaneous and reciprocal and forgiving and patient. And if that wish comes true…
…Apparently you might just get married in an airport. 😉
I used to fall in the last group. When I was younger, I was very ‘meh’ about physical touch, hugs, and hand holding. I grew up in a family where we never expressed our love through physical touch; I can rarely recall my mother giving me hugs or kisses when I was growing up. Now don’t get all judgy on my mama! She raised me unbelievably well. Hugs and kisses were not part of the formula, and I still turned out A okay 😉 Because I grew accustomed to that, I never needed any physical touch from another human. However, whenever I received some it felt good!
I remained very ‘meh’ about touch, even into adulthood. Then I met Alexis, professional hugger and physical touch extraordinaire. She playfully teased me when we first began dating that I was bad at giving hugs, but the more touchy-feely I was, the more I liked it and the better I became at it.
Now I have become one of the biggest fans of physical touch. I love any second that Alexis and I get to cuddle or hold hands, and I love to shower her with little pecks. Not to mention, her falling asleep on my chest is one of my favorite things in the world and allows us bond on an even deeper level. Increasing the level of physical touch has certainly improved our relationship.
I highly recommend getting out of your comfort zone if you are not the biggest fan of hugs, kisses, or hand holding. Physical touch is like a drug; once you start getting that dopamine from physical contact it’s tough to stop! The great thing is that the beauty of touch can really add another layer to an already great relationship and you can bond physically as well as emotionally.
So take it from the guy who used to give the worst hugs in the world: you can get better and you will love them!
In honor of National Best Friends Day, I’m going to dive into my feelings on being best friends with your partner. I know there are mixed feelings on this topic, and rightfully so! Some people firmly believe that you and your partner should have very distinct lives from one another, while other people believe that your lives inherently become intertwined, and still others think the beauty is still somewhere in the middle.
No matter where you fall on that spectrum, I want you to think of something. Go back to the days where your only worry in the world was whether your best friend could come over your house for dinner, or if they could sleep over that weekend. Weren’t those the good old days? I fondly remember the pep in my step every Friday when I was picked up from grade school and heading home for the weekend. Sleepovers with my best friend were basically expected, and my parents would order pizza, rent us Mary Kate & Ashley movies, and we’d make up dances to record on my family’s camcorder.
I think back to those times and how simple life was. I spent quality time with someone I loved (and still love to this day!), and created memories I’ll cherish forever. Shouldn’t romantic love be that way too?
One of the (many, many, many) things I love about Bobby is that he is my best friend. In fact, we became best friends before we started dating! Now that doesn’t mean that I subscribe to the mentality that you have to be friends first, but I do believe that it’s important to get to the point in your relationship where your partner is not only the person you’re dating, but also your best friend. Bobby is the friend I tell all my secrets to, no matter how embarrassing. He’s the friend I love to travel with. And he is the friend who I would gladly rush home after work to watch Mary Kate & Ashley movies with. (Even though we are entirely too old for that and I don’t even own a VCR anymore.) But the moral of the story is that you should be with someone who provides not only romance and love, but companionship, camaraderie, and solidarity. Growing old with your BFF isn’t just a story line in the Golden Girls; it can be your reality. And I think that’s pretty darn special.
I read a quote once somewhere that said something to the effect of, “If you have to invite your best friend to your wedding, you’re marrying the wrong person.” Since that day, it’s been a quiet reminder in the back of my head that if you’re going to build a life with someone, it should be your very best friend.
Peanut butter! The most amazing and delicious spread that everyone in America loves… except for Alexis and I 😉 That’s right folks, you are talking to maybe the only couple in America that does not like peanut butter one bit. Are we a bit strange? The strangest, but we are damn proud of our dislike of peanut butter and we will not hide in the shadows any longer!!!
Peanut butter has long remained the most overrated paste on the market. When it hits the tongue it is repulsive and it makes me want to rid the entire Earth of peanuts to save any other human from having to endure the pain of ingesting this disgusting food. (If you can even call it “food”.)
When I was a child, my own mother had to chase me around the house and force feed me a peanut butter sandwich so that I would try it. And the first bite was absolutely awful! The creamy paste was too much for my taste buds too handle and I instantly spit it out and I would not try a second bite! I will admit that chocolate does make peanut butter bearable but I would much prefer just plain chocolate.
I asked Lexi to chime in a bit on her feelings about peanut butter and here’s what she had to say:
As Bobby has already stated, I can’t stand peanut butter either. I legitimately think the last time I had peanut butter is when my mom made PB&Js for a hiking trip we took back when I was still in grade school. My dad loves (and I mean looooves) peanut butter, and he eats it by the spoonful quite frequently. Even just the sight of it makes me cringe! I will say though that Bobby’s mom makes the most amazing cookies every week — and they have little Reese’s peanut butter chips along with the chocolate chips in the cookies. Those cookies are pure deliciousness and I can’t help myself because her recipe is just too good. But besides that, no. Keep your peanut butter away from me.
So in conclusion, we do not like peanut butter and we are happy about it. We can live full lives without peanut butter and there are plenty of other spreads to enjoy. Maybe we should try Nutella 😉
Bobby and I pride ourselves in making our relationship a priority. Not in the “We Never Hang Out With Other People And Only Make Time For Each Other” way, but in the “Our Relationship Is Important To Us And We Realize Love Requires Effort” way. Because of that, we have always made going on dates a priority. Bobby is really good at planning dates, and that is one of the things I appreciated about him from day 1. He often took initiative and was the one to plan our early dates, and I thought it was so sweet that he came up with such great ideas like hiking, bowling, and mini-golf. I’m not into the whole “Netflix and chill” trend and I hate cliche dates like movies (you can’t even talk!!!) or dinner (when you’re stuffing food in your mouth you can’t talk either!!!), so I never liked those as early dates when I was seeing someone new. At this point in our relationship, I won’t pass up an opportunity to go to the drive-in and out to dinner, but that’s because I don’t feel guilty distracting him during the film to ask a question and I’m not judging him for telling me about his day in between sloppy bites of food.
So. Dates. A lot of couples we know in long-term and/or serious relationships seem surprised when we talk about how often we still go on dates. At least once a week, if not more, we go on an actual date. It’s not as expensive as it sounds; I’m quick to whip out a gift card or promotional email so we can save money, but I do think that spending time out and about is a worthwhile expense in a relationship. Sure, I’m the first to admit that lounging around and watching Bravo is a lovely way to spend an evening, but I also firmly believe that actually getting out there and doing things with your partner is crucial to a healthy relationship.
It feels nice to get all dolled up to go to an event, it is a bonding experience to go try restaurants together, and it is a wonderful reminder of how well you get along with your partner when you go out there and get active. I know this is easier said than done, because work, money, and family can create conflicts of interest that make free time hard to come by, but it’s an important aspect of your life to prioritize alongside the other commitments in your life.
What is your favorite date night activity?
P.S. Nordstrom is having a huge (and I mean HUUUUUGE) half-yearly sale right now. Be sure to check it out before it’s too late; there is a ton of amazing clothing and shoes for 40% off!
Lexi and I decided to purchase these awesome onesies from Shinesty and they were the best investment that we made over the winter. They’re incredibly comfy, warm and stylish — if you’re into the good ole’ US of A 😉 They’re great for relaxing on the couch, drive-ins, bonfires, and don’t be afraid to rock these bad boys out in public! (Yes, we actually do wear them in public. In fact, we wore them out to lunch last weekend. #noshame)
We’ve received countless compliments from random people wherever we go when we put on our onesies and they seem to make us more approachable! Several people have asked where we purchased the onesies and many people just love our patriotism. They open the door to so many fun conversations and new people that we otherwise would have not talked to!
Wearing giant onesies with your partner may seem silly, but stuff like that keeps your relationship fun and allows you to bond over new things — even if they’re little adorable things like wearing American flags in public. The moral of this story is to keep trying new stuff with your partner! You’ll be surprised how much fun a simple purchase like an American flag onesie can add to your life and your relationship. Be comfortable in your own skin and be comfortable around your partner because being goofy around the one you love is a special gift!
We might not be relationship experts but I definitely stress the importance of trying new things. You could find that it takes you on an amazing adventure with plenty of twists and turns with that special someone.
Do you do anything quirky with your significant other? Be sure to let us know!