Physical touch: some people hate it!
Some people love it!
Others can be very ‘meh’ about it.
I used to fall in the last group. When I was younger, I was very ‘meh’ about physical touch, hugs, and hand holding. I grew up in a family where we never expressed our love through physical touch; I can rarely recall my mother giving me hugs or kisses when I was growing up. Now don’t get all judgy on my mama! She raised me unbelievably well. Hugs and kisses were not part of the formula, and I still turned out A okay 😉 Because I grew accustomed to that, I never needed any physical touch from another human. However, whenever I received some it felt good!
I remained very ‘meh’ about touch, even into adulthood. Then I met Alexis, professional hugger and physical touch extraordinaire. She playfully teased me when we first began dating that I was bad at giving hugs, but the more touchy-feely I was, the more I liked it and the better I became at it.
Now I have become one of the biggest fans of physical touch. I love any second that Alexis and I get to cuddle or hold hands, and I love to shower her with little pecks. Not to mention, her falling asleep on my chest is one of my favorite things in the world and allows us bond on an even deeper level. Increasing the level of physical touch has certainly improved our relationship.
I highly recommend getting out of your comfort zone if you are not the biggest fan of hugs, kisses, or hand holding. Physical touch is like a drug; once you start getting that dopamine from physical contact it’s tough to stop! The great thing is that the beauty of touch can really add another layer to an already great relationship and you can bond physically as well as emotionally.
So take it from the guy who used to give the worst hugs in the world: you can get better and you will love them!
Hug away, people. The world could use more love.